Published: March 25, I joined the Mile High Club once it became clear that the marriage I was two months into was simply an adventure, not a lifelong commitment. The Southwest employees knew what we were up to. Had I not been three champagnes deep, I would have been mortified. In fact, I think that became a problem: The quickie mentality began to spill over into our more traditional bedroom life. Soon, sex became something I did not look forward to.
The lack of intimacy made me question whether our connection was strong enough. This encounter was different from our usual rushed routine β it was meaningful and tender. There was no adrenaline rush for checking off one more cool spot, but a feeling of being on the same page emotionally.
Soon the love for our child was the only thing we had in common, and we split up. After divorce, there was a period when I questioned everything about our relationship. But most importantly: Why did I think a physical relationship was all I had to offer? The questions lingered as I entered relationships after my marriage. My thoughts about sex and love were conflicted. There was a sacredness to it that I valued; yet I was no longer romantically involved with this person.
In abstaining from romance over the past year, I was able to reconnect with myself before trying to connect with anyone else. Previously, I had depended on others for my own happiness. I learned that a wild sex life does not, on its own, bind people together. We encourage all readers to share their views on our articles and blog posts. We are committed to maintaining a lively but civil forum for discussion, so we ask you to avoid personal attacks, and please keep your comments relevant and respectful.
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